The Loneliness of Private Practice

Solo CBT practice has a specific kind of loneliness baked into the structure. The agency you trained in had a corridor, a kitchen, a senior clinician you could grab between sessions. Solo practice strips that out. You finish a tough hour, write a note, open the door for the next person. The hour stays in your head with nowhere to go.

The loneliness gets read as a personal failing or as introversion. Neither. It’s structural. Working alone with people in pain, with no colleague within ten feet, would wear on anyone.

The motivational fix doesn’t work. Telling yourself to push through, to be grateful for the autonomy, to lean on the income. The feeling persists because the structural cause persists.

What works is rebuilding the corridor on purpose.

A peer consultation group of three or four other solo therapists, meeting fortnightly. Two hours, case-focused, with a rough agenda. The group does what the agency corridor used to do. You bring a stuck case, you hear how someone else would think about it, you talk shop with people who get it. The cases stop living only in your head.

A regular supervisor or coach for the harder cases. Monthly is enough for most. The role is half clinical input, half witness. Someone who knows what you’re working on and asks how it’s going.

A specific friend who’s also a therapist. Not for case discussion, for the rest of it. The day a client cancelled and you cried in the kitchen. The conversation about whether to raise rates. The moment you wondered if you should have gone into something else. One person who’s in the same job and willing to say their version out loud.

In my-cbt, the case file reduces the cognitive load that builds across the day. Notes drop into the file as you finish each session. The hour isn’t sitting in your head waiting for documentation. The mental space the structure frees up is the space you have for actual contact with the people in your consultation group.

There’s also the coaching add-on, where Ben (a business coach who lives inside the platform) is available for the practice-management questions that don’t belong in clinical consultation. Not a substitute for peer support or your own therapy, but useful for the questions about pricing, marketing, capacity, and growth that solo therapists otherwise carry alone.

The autonomy of solo practice is real. The loneliness that comes with it is also real. Build the corridor on purpose.